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khilafat
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« on: April 29, 2011, 09:17:14 PM »

The wedding party and the people in poverty (link to web site edited)
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« Reply #1 on: April 30, 2011, 04:15:55 AM »

"....the first, to which you ought to invite them to, should be 'LailahaillaAllah (there is no God but Allah).” In another excessive quantity one says: “the first, to which you invite them, should be Tawhid. If they accept Tawhid...” (Bukhari; Muslim)
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« Reply #2 on: May 09, 2011, 03:32:37 AM »

AS SALAAM ALAIKUM,
  SIR I WANT TO DISCUSS MINE PERSONAL PROBLEM WITH U IN THE LIGHT OF ISLAM.
  SIR I M HAVING A COUSIN SISITER WHO'S AGE IS AROUND 35YRS.SHE GOT MARRIED AROUND 15 YRS BACK N GOT DIVORCED AFTER 4 MONTHS DUE THE THE BEHAVIOUR HER IN LAWS.SHE IS HAVING A SON WHO'S IN 8TH CLASS.
  SIR I CANT SEE THE PAIN SHE IS TAKING N HOW MUCH STRUGLE SHE IS TALKING FOR HER LIFE.SHES STAYING WITH HER MOM ,SISTER N KHALAS IN THEIR FAMILY VILLA.
  I WANT TO SUPPORT HER N WANT TO TAKE CARE OF HER AND MINE BROTHER.
  BUT I M NOT HER MEHRIM ALSO ,N I THINK IF I WILL MARRY HER AS HUZOOR {SAWS} DID,IS IT RIGHT.I TOLD TO MY PARENTS ABOUT THIS BUT AFTER THAT THEY ARE REALLY UNHAPPY WITH ME.I LOVE HER SOO MUCH THAT IF SHE TELLS ME TO REMAIN HER BROTHER I M READY TO DO AS SHE WISHES BUT CANT MARRY ANY ONE ELSE BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO SHARE MY FEELINGS N LOVE TO HER N MY BROTHER WITH ANY ONE ELSE.
 I M NOT ABLE TO HANDLE THE SITUATION N NOR ABLE TO EXPLAIN MY PARENTS.RIGHT NOW M A STUDENT OF ENGG. 3rd YEAR.
  SOME TIMES MY PARENTS SAY HER NATURE IS NOT GOOD N SOME TIMES THEY SAY THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING ON U DUE TO WHICH U LOVE HER BLINDLY.I BELIEVE ON MY SISITER N PARENTS N LOVE THEM EQUALLY.
 PLEASE TELL IS IT RIGHT TO MARRY HER . AND WHAT TO DO IF MY PARENTS R AGAINST IT BECAUSE THEIR MIND IS THINKING IN WRONG DIRECTION N SHAITAN HAS ENTERED IN THEIR MIND.I HAVE TO OBEY THEM N ALSO WANT TO WALK ON HUZOOR'S SUNNAT.PLEASE HELP ME.
U CAN CONTACT ME ON  (######### edited)

ALAAH HAFIZ ...
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« Reply #3 on: May 11, 2011, 02:15:45 AM »

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

وعليكم السللام ورحمة الله وبركاته


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Some one asked similar question, answer to which is below, hope this will help.( Please remember to post questions in appropriate section)


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Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

A man should choose for himself a woman who is religiously committed and of good character, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Women may be married for four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4802; Muslim, 1466.


Secondly:

A man should ask his parents’ permission to get married and consult them concerning the one to whom he wants to propose, and he should try to please them because of the great rights that they have over him.

If he wants to marry a particular woman and his parents tell him not to marry her, then he should obey them so long as he does not fear that he will fall into haraam if he does not marry this particular woman. Ibn Salaah, al-Nawawi and Ibn Hilaal stated – as mentioned by al-‘Allaamah Muhammad Mawlood al-Mauritani in Nuzum al-Baroor – that it is obligatory to obey one’s father if he forbids his son to marry a particular woman.

But if he fears falling into haraam with this woman, then warding off evil is to be given precedence over obeying his parents.  

If you are keen to marry this woman, then you should convince your parents of the reasons why you have chosen her. Then if they agree, praise be to Allah, but if they insist on refusing, then it is better for you to obey them.

You should not let that upset you, for Allah has put a great deal of good and blessing in obedience to them (parents). It is no secret that the parents have great rights and virtues which call one to show gratitude towards them and to honour them and treat them kindly, and to sacrifice a great deal of pleasures for their sake.

May Allah help us and you to do righteous deeds.

And Allah knows best.


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