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Awal
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« on: August 30, 2010, 11:23:05 AM »

What is the ideal period should a husband stop having sex with his pragnant wife?
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« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2010, 03:59:14 AM »

I think this is rather a question to the doctor observing the wife not on islam forum.
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« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2010, 08:58:34 AM »

I agree with Sister tasneem, Please keep these kind of questions away from this site. These are too private to be posted on the Islamic forum which is open to all sisters and brothers. Insha'Allaah we shall try to ask questions that are best suitable to the site.  Jazzak Allaah Khairan,

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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2010, 07:38:07 AM »

Islam is not a closed religion, why give this signal in the first place, by making the Sex & Pregnancy question look like a Taboo !!.

Islam openly discusses about sex etc. When the prophet did not feel shy about giving his own personal advise, then why should we feel shy to discuss these questions. As a matter of fact it will help us to educate ourself better and not to have inhibitions.

If you do not have an answer to the same then advise them simply to refer with a doctor, but just dont slam the questioner on the face.

Wasalaam

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« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2010, 08:10:46 AM »

wa salam

First of all, no one put a taboo on any topic here. Secondly, the question here requires a medical advise from a doctor not from a layperson on a forum.

In islam nothing should be done to harm the woman or the child as in the fatwa:

Praise be to Allaah.

It is permissible for a man to have intercourse with his pregnant wife whenever he wants, unless that will cause her harm, for it is haraam for him to do anything that will harm her. If it will not cause her harm but it is difficult for her, then it is better for him not to have intercourse with her, because avoiding things which are difficult for her is a kind of living with them honourably. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“and live with them honourably”

[al-Nisaa’ 4:19]


That's why the advise is given to consult a doctor observing the wife, since he can determine WHEN it becomes dangerous for the baby or the wife so he can prevent the husband from having intercourse.

Jazak ALLAH khair for your concern

ma`a salam
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« Reply #5 on: October 20, 2010, 04:30:18 AM »

Islam is not a closed religion, why give this signal in the first place, by making the Sex & Pregnancy question look like a Taboo !!.

Islam openly discusses about sex etc. When the prophet did not feel shy about giving his own personal advise, then why should we feel shy to discuss these questions. As a matter of fact it will help us to educate ourself better and not to have inhibitions.

If you do not have an answer to the same then advise them simply to refer with a doctor, but just dont slam the questioner on the face.

Wasalaam

Shabbir

Salamu Alaikum,

Seconded

Ma'asalam.
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« Reply #6 on: October 20, 2010, 04:55:38 AM »

Sister Tasneem, thanks for your mail again.

To be honest what you advised about seeking medical advise was absolutely RIGHT, my message was for Sister Zaree, who put a Stop to that query and make it sound like a Taboo.

Rgds

Shabbir
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« Reply #7 on: November 24, 2010, 02:00:09 AM »

Asalam alaikum, can I know what Islam poses as rules & regulations for a widow during her "EDDAH"  as there I have seen a certain woman wearing black clothes and abstained from normal activities of earning her living?

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« Reply #8 on: November 24, 2010, 12:40:43 PM »

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

Brother Karim Selemani

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Q:What are the laws by which the widow whose husband had just died must abide by?



A: The Hadith states what a mourning widow is prohibited from doing and what she is requested to do.

First, she must remain in her house in which she was living when her husband died. She remains therein until her iddah (mourning period) comes to an end. This is four months and ten days. Unless she is pregnant, wherein her mourning period ends when she gives birth. Allah says in the Quran,

"For those who are pregnant, their waiting period is until they deliver" (al-Talaq 4).

She does not leave the house except due to need or necessity, such as visiting the hospital due to illness, buying what she is in need of from the market, such as food or other items, if she cannot find others to do such for her. Similarly, if the house is destroyed, she leaves it for another house. Finally, if she does not find anyone who she knows close to her and she fears for her safety, she may move due to that need.

Second, she may not wear any kind of beautiful clothing, either yellow, green or other. She must wear clothing which is not beautiful or attractive, regardless of whether it be black, green or otherwise. The important aspect is that it is not beautiful or attractive. This is what the Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered.

Third, she must not wear jewelry, either gold, silver, diamonds, pearls or anything of that nature. This is regardless if it be bracelets, chains or rings. She may not wear anything of this nature until her mourning period is over.

Fourth, she must refrain from using perfume. She cannot perfume herself with either incense or any other kind of items that make the body smell good. The only exception to this is when she cleanses herself after her period. In that case, there is no harm if she applies some kind of incense.

Fifth, she should not apply kohl. She can neither use kohl nor anything similar to kohl which is a beautification for the face, a beautification that may be considered something that attracts people. As for the normal beautification of using water and soap, there is nothing wrong with that. But the kohl which is a beautification of the eyes and other similar items that woman put on their faces are not to be used.

These are the five items that a woman must attend to when her husband dies.

However, there are many other acts that the general masses believe or have fabricated concerning a mourning woman. For example, they say that she cannot talk to anyone, she may not talk on the phone, she can only take a shower once a week, she cannot walk barefoot in her house, she cannot go out under the light of the moon, and other superstitions that are simply false. There is no basis for any of these. She may walk barefoot or with shoes in her house. She fulfills her needs in the house, such as cooking her food and the food of her guests. She may go out in the light of the moon on her roof 1 or in her garden. She may wash herself whenever she wishes. She may speak to anyone she wishes as long as it is not suspicious speech. She may shake hands with women and men she is related to-- as for those men she is not related to, she may not shake their hands. She may remove her head scarf if she is not in the presence of men she is not related to.

However, she should not use henna or saffron either on her clothing or in her coffee. This is because saffron is a kind of perfume and it is not allowed for her to perfume herself. She cannot be proposed to. One may indirectly make a statement intent to her but a clear proposal is not allowed.



Shaikh ibn Baz
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